This is a response I put in to a conversation on MyRedBook.com – a place where I advertise and that has a forum.Â
Alrighty I have a lot of opinions about this thread but will stay as close to the point as possible.
I agree, a “stripper with a whip” can not only provide bad service but cause serious harm. I have utter respect for Rachel and Kayla because I have researched them and know their commitment to their craft.
I personally entered into providing fetish and kink services because at the time I was providing FBSM and was getting kink requests. I was a natural at it! Choking, spanking, ass play… I already took a dominant stance at the side of my table and when these requests were made I felt the thrill of the power exchange.
As I received more requests I learned about each kink. I also started attending classes and gatherings in our local BDSM community here in Las Vegas. I’ve never promised more than I can deliver… and I’m lucky I’ve never had an accident with a client. I’ve made my mistakes during training and private play.
In January 2011 I began offering escort services. I love sex too much and wanted the extra money it would bring. I know that some people say I’m not a “real Dominatrix” because I allow and enjoy mutual pleasure and physical intimacy with my clients/subs. What I’ve found is that there is a strong desire for that in the market place – someone who is a little softer and offering kink/fetish services in a sexual/sensual way. Not all clients want it… and that’s find. That’s also the difference between being a pro-Dom and a lifestyle Dom (for me) – As a pro I cater to their fetish for their time with me versus doing what I like and what gets me off (only) because it is a finite amount of time.
As for offering submissive services – My girlfriend telly advertises those as well as escort and sometimes body rubs. She is a masochist and we’ve basically set some ground rules and such for how she deals with her Dom clients. If they ask for something including blindfolds and/or bondage then they have to hire both of us for the first session so there can be another pair of eyes in the room. They have a safe word and she knows how to express her limits. She has never had a problem.
Stay Sexy,
Nikki Ivana
One shy gentleman asked me to come and shave him. After talking awhile and learning it wasn’t as much about power exchange as it was sensation for him, we had a terrific time. Me having him turn this way and that. Through the course of our conversation I learned that not only had he never shaved/been shaved, he’d also never had anal sex, licked a pussy or even touched one with his hands! He decided to keep me for an extra hour and I gave him a complete lesson showing him the anatomy of my pussy and how to pleasure it. He had the softest touch and his nervousness turned me on completely.
